Two Cents. And One Dollar.

In my opinion, one should have the ability to adapt and blend with its surrounding. One should be multifaceted, compromising, therefore change roles in between their daily activities. One should be able to be mature, childlike, serious, silly, firm, flexible, independent, reliant, all adjusted to where you are, who you’re with. Just like a performer, life is actually like a show business. In a good way. And in a genuine manner. There are different audiences to entertain every day, and we just gotta enjoy the different roles we play.

For me, this also applies to fashion. Fashion should never be selfish, but understanding. As much as I love fashion, I realize that some clothes or too strong of a style can create distance. Because clothes are intimate, often interpreted as a symbol of status, or class. Regardless the actual meaning, fashion does create inferiority. Clothes can make someone shrink (metaphorically), or make someone feel better than everyone else. And this is what I dislike. To let clothes outclass anyone, just because one thinks too much of him / herself and that one must always push forward their personal style. I disagree. We are not our clothes, nor the brand we wear. Our personality, our quality, can speak without our clothes. There are times when we should put aside our accessories, once in a while. Fashion to me is not about proving anything to anyone. It’s a self-expression, and self-expression must be done by understanding your situation first.

Fashion should never be selfish. Dress down when needed...:)

Quote of the Day

"Life is like the act of taking photos. Simply focus on your object(ive) and don't let anything else blur out your visions. Your photo is your visualization of life."

- Diana Rikasari -

S.u.c.c.e.s.s

"What does success means to you?"

"I think, success is a state of mind where we are simply happy because we are living a life we love."

So never quantify success, for success is not an objective. It is not defined by figures or ranks, but it makes your mind and heart ready for whatever number you'll achieve.You are a successful person if you have managed to wake up every morning and smile because you know you got the whole day to do what you love.

Quote of The Day

"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, 
then they fight you, then you win." 

- Mahatma Gandhi-

Quote of The Day

"Happiness is not always about having our wishes granted, but knowing that we have a dream and we're heading there."

- Diana Rikasari -

Quote of The Day

“Integrity is not a conditional word. It doesn't blow in the wind or change with the weather. It is your inner image of yourself, and if you look in there and see a man who won't cheat, then you know he never will.” 

- John D. MacDonald -

The Bad Cupcake Analogy

When you're really craving for a delicious cupcake however found the cupcake you bought was totally tasteless, you can either:

• get mad and throw the cupcake away
• bring back the cupcake to the store and ask for refund
• visit back the store and complain to the store manager
• blab about it on social media
• cry non-stop because I juuussttt waaannttedd a cuupcaaakee why is liiiifee sooo unfaaiiirrr
• eat the cupcake because you've bought it anyway
• just eat the icing because that part is still yummy
• give the cupcake to someone less fortunate because he/she might appreciate it better
• take pictures of the cupcake because regardless the taste, the cupcake looks cute!

You see, in life, we OFTEN get bad cupcakes. We all do. Life's good or bad simply depending on how we react to the situations we are forced to face.

Being Sensible

One of the easiest things to do in life is to “be angry”. Somehow, for some people, being angry seems to be  far much easier than being happy.

There’s nothing wrong with being angry. In fact, there are times when we should be angry; when people lie to us, when someone abuses our rights, when someone forces us to do something that is against our belief, when people disrespect us, and so forth. But being angry is right when released in the right way too. Just like how there’s the right way to talk to people, there is also the right way to express our anger; with grace.

Last week I experienced a very very upsetting situation. My company was supposed to open a booth in one of the biggest music festival, but simply said, we got screwed up. Isn’t it “amazing” that after weeks of planning and completing 100% of the payment, they “forgot” about us and on the D-day, none of us could even get in. They never gave us ID passes, and no one seemed to be responsible for it. And this is after being in contact with the officials for weeks and also paying 100% upfront. It took a loooooong time before all of us could get in and prove to them that we deserve the booth we have paid for. Yada yada, I managed to meet the management, and everything was finally settled after a few hours. In total, we lost about 4 hours from our supposedly 8 operating-hours. That’s a tremendous loss if we were to calculate the cost per hour.

During the argument I had with the management, I really felt like releasing my disappointment and anger on Twitter. For a second, I thought that I would feel better if the world knows how I felt, or how bad their service were. But I didn’t. I expressed my anger in just the right portion, just to the one who was to blame. And after I finished talking (or being angry – to be exact), I inquired why this all could happen. After listening to their side of the story, I understood. What they had to deal with was even far worse. Basically their system crashed just a few days before the event. So it was that bad for them too. Eventhough they were still “wrong” for not giving us a smooth service and creating us tremendous loss, things were understandable. And I felt relieved that I didn’t publicly announce their mistake to the world.

You see..when you’re really angry at someone, try to keep it between just the two of you. You don’t have to take people down in front of everyone just because they made you crazily angry for that very minute. And you don’t have to embarass them like that. People make mistakes, and there are reasons for them. So listen to them first, then judge and evaluate. The moment you take it public, you are putting someone’s life at risk. Because you never know how one impulsive tweet or announcement can change a person’s life. Have the sense to put ourselves in other people’s shoes. Life’s not always about me, me and me.

Quote of The Day

In life, you can't expect everyone to be nice to you, as maybe, you haven't been that nice to everyone anyway. So rather than having bad assumptions about people and question why they treat you unpleasantly, question yourself first.

Quote of The Day

"A smile is happiness you'll find 
right under your nose."

- Tom Wilson-

ABC

Stop chasing numbers just because it's the easiest way of measuring, and stop overrating words of compliments just because it's nice to hear. What matters the most is to enjoy a journey where both our heart and mind feel good about it, no matter how small.

Quote of The Day

Quote of The Day

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.”

- Ambrose Redmoon -

And This Came Out Of A Kid

I forgot who this kid was specifically, but he's basically a very smart kid who was interviewed on TV.

Reporter: "You refuse to take an IQ Test. What is your reason?"

Him: "If I find out that I have a high score, I'm afraid I would develop a sense of arrogance and that I would feel smarter than others. If I scored low, I would feel that I'm not good enough and that would discourage me. I just want to enjoy studying without the burden of an IQ score."

PROFOUND.

Quote of The Day

"Celebrate a hot sunny day with ice cream. Celebrate the rain with a cute umbrella. Life's worth a daily celebration."

- Diana Rikasari -

Quote of The Day

"Have the courage to admit that what we think is good enough might actually become better if we put just a little more effort into it."

- Diana Rikasari -

Universe

The world may be moving faster than us, but it doesn't always mean you gotta rush to catch up. As long as we're rotating in the same direction, enjoy life in our own speed...:)

Unbranded top, Forever 21 skirt, Up wedges

Btw, this is just too sweet. Toooooo sweet.

Tick Tock Tic Tac Toe

I'm a believer of "passion", but at the same time, I do think that "passion" should be balanced. I disagree with the thinking that if you're into arts, then you don't need to study maths. Or if you've managed to run a business even before you graduate, then there's no point of finishing school or university. Life should be balanced. Like day and night. Like fiction and fantasy. Practice goes well with theories. Sometimes, we abuse the idea of "passion" that we neglect the fact that in life, it's not always about you. And even when it's about you, you need to be complete. Don't use "passion" as an excuse to miss out on other things life has to offer. Don't just live in your own passion-bubble and not touch other worlds. Be out there and stay current.

Mango oversized sweater, leather skirt from Pakistan, Marks & Spencer socks, Up wedges

Check out my new batik edition for Up! And if you shop this January, you might win this huuuuuuge Up wall clock....shop shop! :)

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Lately I have been a bit "away" from the virtual world, either from my blog, my Twitter account, Facebook. There's been a lot of contemplation going on inside my mind. I dunno. The internet can be scary at times.

Internet is a masterpiece. It has allowed us to cross-express and cross-trade almost everything one can imagine. There's no more limitations and boundaries to have a voice in this world, to be heard, to share, to receive and even learn. Internet however, is a platform. We don't hide behind it, we run on it. We are on the front line, our names, our identities, our lives. Therefore, the 'human' factor is and shall always be the main content. Not fake names, not false information, not pretentious statements, not mis-lead assumptions and fights that happen because we trust what is said on the internet by people we don't even know more than we trust our loved ones.

I often find people who treat real life and internet as two different worlds, therefore show different personalities too. Why? Internet is also "real life", you know? At least for me. What I say & portray on my blog is exactly who I am in real life. So this is me. Raw. Internet helps us to reach those who can't be reach physically. And at the end of every reach, there are real life humans. Whatever you say or write on the internet, the world can see, the humans can feel. Have a heart. Even on the internet.

Bedside Lamp

Hi, guys...how are you doing? :)

I really feel like writing right now, but I'm not really sure what to write about heheh. S is asleep already (such a baby!) while I'm awake checking emails and just randomly browsing this and that. Life after marriage is.... enjoyable! I'm so happy that things are just as it is, only more peaceful because S is always around.

You know, the power of praying to God is really really powerful. Never be afraid to ask God what you wish to achieve in life, for God always listens and makes them come true if it's for the better. But then again, you really have to believe that God will always give you the best, even when the best is what we think isn't and not what we asked for. Don't just "work hard", but "work very very hard", and let things unfold naturally. Our job as humans is to try our best, aim as high as we can, but leave the results to God. This is the only way to feel complete and peaceful. "Complete" because we live with a mission, "peaceful" because we're letting God lead the way.

Do you guys have enemies? Having enemies in life is such a sad thing. Even though I don't hate anyone, I know that there are people out there who hate me. Therefore, I am an enemy to them, while they aren't to me. I often feel sad when I think about this, but then I realized that if I'm an enemy to someone, it doesn't always mean that I'm the bad one. It might be that that someone is the one having issues in dealing with life and reality. If you hate someone, doesn't that mean you have no room in your heart to forgive? Or no space in your mind to tolerate & compromise? Therefore, those who be-enemy others are the ones not owning big hearts, and that's even sadder.

Oh well, this is such a random post. Good night, guys! Love you, all...:)

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S: "Can you get that for me?"
Me: "Can YOU get that for ME?"
S" "You get it! You're my wife!"
Me: "You get it! You're my husband!"
S: "Yeah but you're my wife."
Me: "Yeah but you're my husband."

Ahhhh I know I'm so annoying...:D